WARNING: I share these intimate details of my life with hesitation and caution, knowing the great risks associated with sharing such information. I share my story because I desperately want to normalize the hardships that accompany marriages involving a partner with an Eating Disorder. I want to impart hope to couples that are struggling through the relational dance that can feel tangling and disappointing, at times. It is not easy to share these personal details with such a broad audience, so I pray you will consider my story with sensitivity and grace, knowing that every experience and every path is different. So, if you are someone who would take offense or feel uncomfortable reading about my sex life, I encourage you to move along. For others, I pray this entry imparts hope. I pray for those who have found themselves suffering in a relationship impacted by an Eating Disorder – that you would experience personal healing, a fun marital friendship, and the sexual fulfillment God intends for you to have.
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I am amazed at the amount of comments and questions I have received regarding Eating Disorders since launching Livinguncovered.com. Questions like, “how do I overcome? How do I connect in marriage and relationships? How do I engage my sexuality in the midst of this battle? How do I keep my eating disorder from affecting my parenting?”
The conversations that have surfaced in the wake of publishing this blog have been intense, and powerfully relevant.
My disclosure: the content I plan to discuss will not be adequately explored in one, or even multiple, blog entries. I pray the limited information I share based on my experience and studies will be practical and helpful to those who are struggling with Eating Disorders, as well as their support system. If you find yourself experiencing thought patterns relevant to Eating Disorders or are engaging in obsessive-compulsive feelings/behaviors around body image, please seek professional help. You can search https://therapists.psychologytoday.com/ to find a therapist to suit your needs, or you can consider online counseling through a forum like www.betterhelp.com.
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The most devastating impact my Eating Disorder has had on my life has been within my marriage. Of course, the toll the disease has had on my body is disturbing. The healing my spirit and mind have required has been exhausting and intense. But the affect the disease has had on the most sacred and precious relationship in my life – my marriage – has been the most unexpected upset.
When Eating Disorders begin to take root nobody warns you that your relationships will suffer and that you will lose touch with Love. You find that out in the most inopportune moments – like on your honeymoon, or shopping as a couple, or when you get pregnant, or when your child indulges on your trigger food. These are the moments when you realize the breadth and depth of this disorder and how it impacts those around you.
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Forgiveness: To excuse for a fault or an offense; Pardon. To renounce anger or resentment against.
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Grief is difficult to understand. It appears as a thief, an enemy, a giant. I am not sure we can say it ever leaves. It is not a task to accomplish or surmount, neither is it a phase to get through. Grieving is a journey, sometimes a lifelong process. Though grief might first enter like unwelcomed company, it will eventually become your ally. Teaching you, growing you, even nurturing you. If grief is handled in the appropriate way, it can be a beautiful instrument of healing. Continue reading “Understanding Grief”
I settle into the place of silence. With the Maker. Love, Himself.
I find myself dragging. Dragging in my thoughts, dragging in my chores, dragging at the gym, dragging in my relationships. This season has been exhausting. Disappointing. Rushed. Continue reading “Not Broken nor Bent – Choosing How Disappointment Shapes Us”